Sean Wyman Interview: The Movement
I had the golden opportunity last Tuesday to interview Sean Wyman. I met him through twitter a while ago and I felt an immediate connection with him and wanted him onto my show. Sean Wyman is a speaker and now an author as well. He’s recently released the book Let Go: The Movement Process in which he talks about recovering from the past.
Growing up, Sean has experienced many things in his life to physical and emotional abuse, bullying and even a messy divorce. Sean has moved past that now and explain his experiences in the book, no details held back.
I brought Sean on to talk specifically about the past on my show. We all have experiences of the past, but some people cling to it and some people move on. The past can be problematic for some as I’m sure most of us can say we’re not always the proudest.
In the end though, overcoming the past is a vital step in order to grow. You can certainly progress and move forward in life, but if there is anything unresolved in your past, then it’s going to be a lot harder to truly grow. It’ll loom over you and as Sean realized, other people do notice it.
Below is the video of the full interview, however I did paraphrase the answers for you down below too.
The past can be explained in many different fashions. What’s your definition of the past and what does it represent to you?
The past is anything that happened a second after it happened. Like the moment is there. Right now is our moment and then it’s gone. It’s behind us now. That’s the way I look at it. Unfortunately it wasn’t always the case. Unfortunately for a long time the past was a historical place. I stored feelings and emotions and challenges and fears and put it in the past and blamed it on the past. I let it control me like so many other people do.
You explained in your book Let Go: The Movement Process that you were in foster care when you were younger and you were in that system for quite some time. Can you explain what that whole experience was like?
I was in foster care from 10 to 18. I went to many different foster homes and group homes. In my first foster home I lived with an old couple and my foster father died in front of me… From there I went to another foster care home where there was a challenging situation. There was molestation between the father and daughter who were living at the house. Then there was a group home I lived in for a while, but there wasn’t any guidance. Just a bunch of misfit kids with no support.
Eventually I moved up to Baltimore to another group home where there was a lot of solid at-risk youth there. Some were very violent and we got into a lot of fights. I once got jumped at school and had the back of my head crushed by a baseball bat. I could go on man.
There were a lot of challenges. I fell into alcohol at a young age. Became an alcoholic by 13. I was drinking consistently on a weekly basis. Now I’m not saying this like I’m bragging. These are things that I went through and I’m not proud of them. But they were part of my life.
Foster care was a challenging time in my life because I was going through all these emotions.
When I was 15 and a half, stability was in my life. I had some people who genuinely cared for me and wanted me to progress. They were tougher on me and they took the booze away. They did their best with what they had and I graduated high school because of them.
Foster care was a challenging time in my life because I was going through all these emotions. I thought my mother abandoned me. And I was watching my mother get emotionally and physically abused. I was listening to the horror stories from the others. My little brother was born around that time and he was getting beaten every day. There was just a lot going on.
In your own professional and personal experiences, how long do you think it takes people to move on from the past?
There are some who can just go, they can tell themselves “Alright that sucks, let’s go, let’s move forward.” But that’s not the case with a lot of people. There’s some terrifying stats out there. I heard one from a friend of mine. It was said that girls between the ages of 13 to 15 have the highest suicide rate in the country (US). So obviously there’s a lot of crazy stuff like bullying that drives people to suicide.
[ctt template=”3″ link=”aKrbR” via=”yes” ]It was said that girls between the ages of 13 to 15 have the highest suicide rate in the country (US). @successwithsean @es_burdon[/ctt]
I would say I’ve been through a lot of bullying when I was younger. I’m a white american living in a mostly african american neighbourhood. My father was african american, my mom was white. My step father had four other sons who were african american. There were a lot of challenges. So it was really hard to pinpoint exactly.
There’s a lot of people who get stuck and the reason we get stuck isn’t because we can’t move forward. It’s because we choose not to. We think we’re doing the right thing by tucking the problem away and believing that everything will be okay if we just keep it down. And that was me for 30 years. As long as I kept this stuff inside and didn’t share it with other people I’d be alright. It wouldn’t affect me if I kept it inside of me. That wasn’t the case because our subconsciousness remembers everything. Our minds are so strong that it’s not so easy to let things go. And that’s why there are plenty of people who never ever let it go. And some people who are able to do that very quickly.
What do you think is the reason people cling to the past so much?
Because that’s what they remember. There were some good times in the past. When I left for my future at 18 I went back to the past. And the reason why I said that is because at 7 I lived in Albuquerque, New Mexico before moving to Washington, DC.
Before that move, we had a lot of happy times when my mom was a single mother. We went to see the first Star Wars movie in theaters. I remember the day like it was yesterday. It’s just one of those days that was just awesome. Looking back at it, at 18 all I remembered were those happy times. So I had to go back there. If I went back there, all the happy moments were going to be there, my life was going to be amazing and everything that happened in the past will stay there. Unfortunately that wasn’t the case.
Based on what you’ve gone through life now and learned, what piece of advice would you give your former self?
The advice I’d give myself is basically three steps. In simple terms the first thing you need to do is to not hide emotions or tuck it away. Have the courage to speak out about it. Second, you need to admit to yourself that it is a problem you have to deal with. And third is accept the solution. Use the solution to fix the problem.
[ctt template=”3″ link=”9CIcG” via=”yes” ]The first thing you need to do is to not hide emotions or tuck it away. @successwithsean @es_burdon[/ctt]
What’s another piece of advice you’d give to others who are struggling through life right now?
The first thing that I suggest is if there is anything that is resonating with you, consider purchasing the book. I believe this book is a powerful book. God told me this book will get into the hands of at least a million people. I was on a radio show where a woman was speaking to an audience of a 120,000 people. Over a hundred thousand people now know this book exists. Not to mention being on this channel along with all my other social media circles that I’m in. It’s going to happen. It’s just a matter of waiting.
I’m not here to predict your life, your life is your life. But if you want to improve your life, have a better relationship, and live the life you want to live. If you want a real shot at doing something amazing and exceed anyone, even your own expectations then you have to let go of the past. That’s where the title of the book came from because all I was talking about after I was 30 was “Let go.” And The Movement was my initial brand for my speaking business. I wasn’t even planning on writing this book, it wasn’t the direction I was going to be going.
It’s funny because sometimes you know where you want to go. But sometimes you get redirected to where you ought to be. It’s cool to have a dream and know where to go, but you want to have an open mind. Understand some times you need to go somewhere else where you’re needed and where you can serve the most.
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