Many people try to do specific things, or reach specific goals, and find out that they suck at it. When they do, they simply give it up, and move on to something else. It seems like the logical thing to do, right?
When we look back on life, we’ll find there were times when we sucked at just about everything. There was a time when we sucked at walking, there was a time when we sucked at getting dressed, there was a time we sucked at writing, and – for most of us – there was a time when we sucked at relationships (with our parents, siblings, peers and friends – and even those we care about).
But we didn’t give up on any of those things…
We stumbled around until we found our way.
As we continued fumbling around, we gradually improved, until such time as our skills became better. Yes, some of us were able to learn faster, and ended up being more capable than others, but we carried on until such time as we could apply those skills well enough to get us where we wanted to be.
If you are trying to accomplish something, and you find you suck at it, take a step back and look at it objectively:
1. The fact that you suck at it now, doesn’t mean you will suck at it forever. You may just be “a slow learner”, and you need to invest more time. You’ll be surprised to know how many great artists and sports heroes were told they would never make it – only to go on and make it.
2. For what you want to achieve, you may not need to be up to spectacular standards. You may just need to master the basics. For instance – if you are a blogger, you will need to write reasonably well. But you don’t have to be a great graphic designer. You can get by with just the basic skills, and outsource it once you make enough money to justify the expense.
3. The greatest achievement lies not in becoming great at what you are working on – but in the consistent effort you put into it. That consistent effort becomes a way of life.
4. If you keep at it for long enough, you may just surprise yourself. But even if you fail spectacularly, you will still be better off than if you didn’t try at all.
5. Even if you fail, you will still be able to learn something from the experience.
The bottom line is this:
Even if you don’t reach your goal, you didn’t really fail. Firstly, you cultivated a habit of persistence. Secondly, you were able to learn – even if you only learned something about yourself which you need to work on. Lastly, if you keep at it long enough, you can still grow into it.
So next time you find you suck at something…
Don’t give up on yourself just yet.