“How To Stay Positive” is part of the three-month writing challenge I did. By the time of this posting I have finished my challenge, however, you can read all about the challenge here. To view the original article click here.
Throughout my journey, there have been many points in time where I doubted myself and thought about giving up. It has been a long battle for me and at the end of it, I really don’t have a lot to show from it with actual results.
But what I can show is through my stories that I slowly share to the world. I can share what I was thinking, planning, and doing.
In a sense, I am showing in that respect but it’s more on the things that one shouldn’t do rather than what people should do.
That isn’t to say I wasn’t allowed to feel down or depressed. But I kept most of the time my spirits high.
The Power Of Positivity
All throughout these writings for the past few months I’ve kept a sunny disposition and talked loosely about positivity. I talked about optimism and how that can help us but also how to take overboard and what are the costs of that.
All in all, positivity is an essential part to our patience, mainly because we see it in the form of optimism.
When people struggle to be patient with something or expect immediate results, there is something about their thinking process that causes that.
At the core of it all, our impatience drives us to want those faster unrealistic results and to give up and make excuses when things don’t go our way.
But with optimism, we learn to hold on.
Sure some people might say it’s not worth the wait or you are wasting your time, but it’s hard to tell that.
We’re not fortune tellers who can predict our future. We can only forge forward with what we have. From the knowledge that we have acquired to our own habits and personality, we continue to press forward with that and more.
This is what optimism and positivity teaches us in the light of patience. The willingness to hold onto something and to keep trying.
But as always, there is a breaking point to all of this. Much like toxic optimism, there is a point where it doesn’t make sense to hold on.
Furthermore holding on past that point will only do you more harm too.
I know I’m contradicting myself immediately since I just said above to not give up and to keep trying. But I mean both sides.
I’m saying to keep riding the wave until the very end. But do so in a way that you try different things every time.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
Your breaking point is that 2nd attempt and not changing your methods at all.
In other words, in order to keep riding the wave, you are forced to using different moves, approaches, and techniques. You don’t pull back from your past bag of tricks unless you plan to modify them and improve them.
This is how the patience game works.
Positive People Wait, Negative People Give Up
The truth is, those who are thinking negatively will change their approach, but in a negative way. They’ll create all kinds of excuses, pitch a fit, or blame others for their failures.
With positive people, they will wait and learn about themselves. They’ll learn quickly their impatience is inside of their head, fucking up their thought process.
At the same time, positive people will learn to let that go and understand that to stay true to their pursuit, they must be adaptive.
Yes, it’s absolutely demanding.
I won’t lie either, positive people do have bad days and contemplate giving up.
But what really kept me going was the fact I grew so much as a person. There are still things that I didn’t even realize and I can still surprise myself with the shit I think of and write about it.
So I will continue to pursue and bide my time. Because that’s how I’ll stay positive.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon