Now my parents are going to worry about me considering the circumstances in my life at the moment, however my meaning behind those two words is the same message regardless of who the person is:
Anger as an overreaction
When someone is angry, their judgement is impaired severally. The anger is geared commonly towards the “bearer of bad
I see this as an overreaction because even though it can be expected from some people, it doesn’t solve the current issue, at the end of the day there is still a problem at hand. Anger helps one side feel slightly better, while the other is a state of gloom, as if they deserved this outburst.
True the problem may have occurred as a result of the individuals fault and one should blame themselves for the mistake that’s made, but we’re imperfect beings. Mistakes happen and the problems can be greater than we are, but that’s not a reason to beat yourself up or shift the blame over to someone else.
Problems are learning experiences
Both in the end aren’t going to solve anything as the anger will still linger and a wedge will be driven between the individuals relationship, the parties involved would likely show resentment rather than willingness to solve the issue.
The solution is simple and it’s in the way of thinking. Instead of asking yourself “How the problem came to happen?” or shifting the blame or overreacting, instead ask yourself “How can we solve the current problem?”.
Approaching the problem with a calm demeanor is a form of control. Yes there is a problem and it may be someone’s fault but in the grand scheme of things it matters very little who’s fault it was, it’s not going to fix the problem that’s occurred. Instead let’s find a solution as there is always a solution regardless of the circumstances that you’re in!
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