We all make mistakes in our lives, but over the years I’ve come to learn that there are several ways to apologize. All the same, there are many ways for you to admit you’re wrong about something or someone.
Admitting one’s own mistakes takes a lot of courage and strength. After all, no one really wants to admit they’re wrong. From the emotional pain to the ramifications of the mistake, it’s understandable.
But recently, I made a mistake and I had to admit that I was wrong to that person. And from that experience, I can tell you admitting you’re wrong and how you go about it, can be the most therapeutic thing you can do. It’s better than bottling it up or shifting blame or coming up with excuses.
How to admit you’re wrong really boils down to following a specific set of rules. It’s these rules that can ensure that things will move smoother.
The first thing is apologizing.
Apologizing and admitting your mistakes may feel like one
When you say you’re sorry or you apologize, you’re making the whole conversation personal. You made a mistake and they suffered as a result in some fashion.
Immediately you’re shifting the conversation over to what you can do better for next time. Whereas if you’re shifting blame or providing a number of excuses, it often runs into a “he said she said” situation. Those instances only increase the heat of the argument.
But apologizing does a little more and sets you up for what you can do next.
Be In The Mindset To Seek Feedback
By admitting you’re wrong, you shift the conversation to essentially one thing. A question:
“You’re right, I made a mistake. Now, what can I do better for next time?”
In the end, everyone makes mistakes. In my case, I had a client who tucked their writing guidelines on a platform I’m not quite familiar with. As a result, I over-delivered on what they were asking.
The mistake on my part was a matter of not recognizing these guidelines and presuming that my client was a very detailed oriented person. After all, we had a lengthy conversation before I received any kind of work plus the ad that I responded to was drastically different from any advertisement I have seen on Upwork. It was clear to me I was dealing with someone who would mention everything – including guidelines.
But while someone else may have some things to work on, the fact still remains that you do too. And that’s important to keep in mind on a business standpoint and on a personal standpoint.
For business, it’s becoming a better professional. For personal it’s being a better person to support others.
Be Clear, Understanding, And Don’t Show Resentment
The final thing is the tonne that you’re delivering. Obviously, as soon as you become defensive, the other person will be too. This is the start of every argument, one person trying to bash the other’s ego.
While winning an argument may bring satisfaction, it doesn’t bring growth. In fact, the other person will begin to resent you for it.
When you admit you’re wrong you want to be clear, understanding, and show no resentment. Take your mistake in stride and fall back on the idea that you want to grow and better help that person.
No matter how bad the mistake is, mistakes are all natural occurrences. We’re not perfect beings and mistakes are inevitable.
But what matters is your willingness to grow and understand and take the mistake away as a lesson. And based on your tonne, you may be able to redeem yourself and have another shot at making things better.
Admit You’re Wrong
There is a lot of therapeutic benefits to admitting you’re wrong. From my experiences, it does suck but the time to recover is swift as you focus on what you can do better next time.
On top of that, the mistakes that we make have short-term consequences. From a loss of a client to a rift or loss in a friendship, the old saying is true that time heals all.
So make use of that time, learn to apologize correctly and grow from the experience.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon