Having a stable and harmonious life is absolutely essential to your levels of happiness and fulfilment, yet some of us struggle with this area, as not everyone is taught how to create an emotionally balanced and stable life when growing up.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs expands on this article, and posits a number of things we each need to feel stable and fulfilled. Here’s a slightly different take on that hierarchy, suggesting that to have an emotionally balanced and stable life you need to ensure the following:
1. YOU TIME
With such busy lives, particularly if you are raising a family, it can be difficult to grab time for yourself yet it’s very important to make the time to relax and replenish.
The analogy of taking a flight was discussed earlier in this article, commenting on how the safety briefing always points out the need to attend to your own mask first before helping anyone else – and this applies to life.
If you’re feeling depleted and exhausted the whole time then you’re not going to be able to feel harmonious within yourself or in your interactions with others. Instead, you might end up feeling grumpy, snappy and irritable. It’s therefore important you take time out for yourself to replenish.
2. Mindset & Emotions
The thoughts you think create the feelings you feel, and at times, it can feel like you aren’t in control of your emotions. Whilst you don’t have control of the circumstances of your life, or how other people treat you, you always have control of where you focus your attention, and as the popular metaphysical saying states “where attention goes energy flows”.
3. Learn To Love Yourself
Most people today seem to be suffering with low self-esteem, low self-worth and low self-confidence. Here are three quick tips to help you love yourself…
3A. STOP TRYING TO FILL THE VOID
We’re often guilty of distracting ourselves from time to time, but this level of distraction can become unhealthy to the point it turns into dissociation. It’s also very easy to find ourselves chasing after things, or people, in order to fill the emotional void within when what we really need is to fill that space ourselves with inner love.
3B. STOP DOING THAT WHICH HURTS YOU
Just like how your daily activities, such as sitting for long periods in an office chair can cause back pain, there are daily activities you engage in on an emotional level that cause emotional pain. Similarly, whilst there are back pain symptoms a chiropractor can care for there are emotional equivalents that a psychotherapist or life coach can care for too.
The most important thing, however, is to find ways to avoid the activities that are causing the pain, or at the very least to find ways that negate the damage caused, such as yoga or mindfulness meditation.
3C. GET RID OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Having to deal with toxic, negative and depleting people tends to be a natural part of life, but it’s important to be mindful of the scientific research that now proves the negative energy from others will rub off and stay with you like a virus. You therefore need to get around positive and nourishing people that have the capacity to support you.